Some Thoughts on Losing Dan

A few brief thoughts on Belmont's loss of Dan Scharfman.

Like so many in Belmont, the loss of Dan Scharfman has been on my mind in bits and pieces throughout every day since.

I only knew Dan moderately well, and mostly through town government and local politics. We did have quite a few things in common - about the same age, both with ties to Brown University, careers in the IT field, running (though he would have kicked my butt in a 5k or 50k run), and a love of poor-taste puns. We both knew many of the joys and frustrations of serving on the School Committee.

The Belmont Community has suffered wide-reaching losses over the past few years, both adults and children. Having children of my own, I probably don't allow my mind to go too deeply into those dark places of losing a child. But the trite "it could have been me" has a lot of truth to it in this case, so my mind can and does go there.

A few years ago one of my kids asked "Are we voting for 'scarf man'?", after (perhaps intentionally) mis-reading one of his campaign signs. We (sometimes) referred to him by that name since when seeing him running on Belmont's streets. I find it oddly comforting that something so trivial makes me smile now.

For me a perfect tribute to Dan would be this thought that stands out above others: I'm not sure if Dan would have recognized my kids if he met them on the street. But from our occasional conversations about schools and kids, I could really feel that he cared for them as if he knew them very well.

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Kimberly Becker January 29, 2013 at 12:18 PM
Nicely said John.


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